Woman Says Ex Husband’s Friends Who ‘Ghosted’ Her After Split Used ‘Emotional Blackmail’ to Buy Her House

A recently divorced woman, who put her home on the market, is having a No Good Deeds moment after her former friends decided they wanted to buy it. 

The mom of two, who shared her dilemma on Reddit’s “Am I the A——” forum, says she found out her husband was in the middle of a “very long” affair while she was pregnant. When she confronted him, he moved out of the house while acting “very justified, hostile and mean,” the woman writes.

Following their split, she put their home, which is in her name, on the market.

She quickly received multiple offers, one of which came from a very surprising potential buyer: her ex husband’s best man and his wife, with whom she’d been friends for years, but “ghosted” her after the affair and subsequent split.

The awkward situation was made even more uncomfortable when, she says, the couple had their real estate agent tell her they were interested in buying her home.

The Reddit user writes the couple were initially “sympathetic” to her after the divorce, but then things got weird.

They “vanished in the last 6 months,” she writes. “Ghosted me and the children . . would be cordial when I ran into them, and I would be too. But other than that, no support.”

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She says she feels the couple aren’t bad people, but are making an already difficult situation awkward and more emotional than it needs to be.

Because of their treatment of her, the homeowner admits in her post that she was reluctant to choose them over other potential buyers who have made similar offers on the house.

“I feel like they’re dancing on the grave a bit,” the woman wrote.

After publishing her initial post on Reddit while the bidding was in a dead heat, the user shared an update that her former friends came back with a higher offer, establishing themselves as the front runners.

“I got a high offer, it’s close to $3 [million], and it’s from my ex’s best friend and his wife,” she shared.

The amount was more than she “dreamed” of receiving, she said, and would allow her to pay off the mortgage and still have some money left over.

As a result, the other potential buyers who had made lower offers walked away. But the homeowner started to get a bad feeling when she didn’t immediately receive a signed contract from her ex friends.

“That’s when the calls and messages start,” the woman told her fellow Redditors.

The husband, she says, insisted on speaking to her before he signed the contract, despite avoiding face to face dealings previously. The realtor told her they were “ready to sign, but “want to check if you’re okay.”

“I tell the agent this is emotional blackmail,” the homeowner writes. The couple, she feels, was having “a crisis of conscience” after possibly realizing buying the home after their past behavior might not be a great look for them.

“When it comes, they need to have some good ‘spin’ on [the purchase],” the woman alleges.

Still, she wasn’t willing to say goodbye to the $3 million and it was “too risky to call their bluff,” that without her blessing, they wouldn’t buy the house.

The homeowner opted to send a text confirming she was fine with the sale, and within the hour, she says, receives the signed contract in her inbox. 

“I receive a text from each of them thanking me and [saying] that my children and I are important to them and they would never have signed unless I was ok with it,” she concludes.

Now, even if they have second thoughts before the closing, she says, she’ll get to keep their $500k deposit.

In the comments section, Reddit users quickly came to the original poster’s defense and argued that she didn’t owe it to her ex’s friends to sell them the house.

“You’ve been through a lot, and you don’t owe them anything in terms of selling the house to them just because of their previous relationship with your husband,” one person wrote. “Don’t feel pressured to make a decision that doesn’t sit right with you. You deserve to make choices that prioritize your own peace of mind and the future of you and your kids.”

Another added, “There’s no law that says you have to sell to the people who used to be friends. There is also no law that demands you sell to the highest bidder. You can sell to whomever you want.”